It is January and many of you will be thinking of making some changes at the beginning of the year. Some of you will be making small changes and some will be making major changes that will effect the rest of your life.
We have all heard of the Law of Attraction but very few understand the concept fully. Its not about imagining something to happen and suddenly it arriving out of thin air as so many might think.
There are certain amount principles that need to be applied in order for things to happen in your live. So lets look at these a little and begin to make sense of how to manifest Some changes in your life
A Plausible Intention means a goal that is achievable and that comes from the heart. For example ; I want to win the lotto ! This is an unreasonable Goal and is based on pop luck.
A better one would be I would like to live in a nice house and drive and nice car or I would like a new career that pays well so I can provide for the family the way I would like.
Those Goals are reasonable and achievable with some planning and work. Heart Centred Goals or Intentions have a good chance of success with planning and discipline.
As a Life coach I teach clients how to speak in the present tense as they are directly speaking to the subconscious mind. This part of the mind takes everything literally as fact and doesn't deal in the past or future tense. This technique is also very good for the Practice of Manifesting.
When writing out you weekly, monthly, yearly or lifetime Intentions or goals, be sure to write them as if you already have them. For example; I am living in a beautiful house and driving my favourite car.
Make sure you describe each of your goals with as much description as possible. Eg; I live in a beautiful Bungalow with a large garden, close to the beach. the room are decorated with the best of furniture, bedrooms with en-suites etc. My car is a red Audi , BMW with tinted windows etc etc.
Describe everything and make it as real as possible. This give your subconscious a better picture and creates feelings of excitement and motivation towards all these Goals you have in the manifestation Process.
As busy humans, we have a tendency to forget our goals quite quickly. Life is full of distractions and before to long our intentions go out the window and we are back to square one. A vision board is a great way to keep that Goal alive and focused on each and every day.
Vision boards are quite easy to create. Basically there are a collage of pictures and mantras that relate to the goal or goals you have. A picture of the perfect house , car , job , friendship, relationship, holiday can be all pieced together to create a Collage of the entire goal.
This Collage can be put somewhere where you cant miss it. In your bedroom, bathroom, fridge, computer screen etc. It is there to remind you what your heart is telling you. It is also there so your subconscious is be constantly fed this information each day and sowing the seeds of this being a reality.
Never underestimate the power of the subconscious mind. This is where all the seeds get sown by the thoughts and images you feed it so start feeding it with what you want and not what you don't want.
Break every goal down to tiny steps toward that goal. Some goals will be larger than others and may seem overwhelming but breaking it down will make it reasonable and actually possible.
Be realistic. For example; You want earn more money to do all the things on your list and Currently working in a job that will never give you this, then maybe you need to retrain or start a business to make this goal a possibility.
Another example; You want to be a loving relationship or meet your soul mate? Maybe you need to start working on yourself with more exercise, a positive attitude, be better dressed, a welcoming home, forgiving the past or past relationships? If your Goals are heart centred, you will instinctively know the steps you need to take to build towards that particular goal.
Daily rituals are the daily steps you take towards your goals. like exercising each day or eating healthy each day. Household chores, meditation, nature walks, Courses, training, reading etc. The lists are endless when it comes to daily rituals. Start with just one daily ritual that you enjoy and introduce another one when you are easily doing the first one.
I remember my very first one was a daily walk. Sounds boring but I lost over 20 kilos in just a few months, was much more relaxed in my mind, was fitter, looked better, was able to fit into new clothes that I never thought possible, had more energy, was happier and all because I had a daily ritual of walking every day. One small ritual can change your entire life.
Being positive is probably one of the hardest things one can do. With so much negativity going around, it is very difficult to positive all of the time. This takes practice by stopping yourself from thinking negative, critical and fearful. When feeling negative or stressed out, have a mantra like "Everything is Ok" or "I am getting better and better every day". Whether you believe this or not it does not matter.
If you say it enough times your subconscious will start absorbing these positive affirmations and result in you feeling better over time. Be mindful of your thinking each day. If its not in a good place then adjust that thinking with your mantra. Take a few deep breaths, say your little mantra and carry on as normal.
If you find yourself being constantly bombarded with negative thought then go for a long walk and ask yourself why you are thinking this way. There will be lots of answers to that question so allow whatever it is to come up and deal with it from a more loving perspective.
I remember myself being extremely negative when I first started the law of attraction process and would go for plenty of walks to let off some steam. My issue was that I was angry at the way my life had turned out and all the various reasons why that had happened. Lots of traumatic past incidence came up and each needed to be investigated.
I can tell you there was lots of shouting and roaring on those walks but eventually I realised that I was only punishing myself for things that were long gone and that I needed to start living in the present and be grateful for still having the opportunity to change things if I wanted.
Remember the subconscious only understands the present so if you are living and thinking in the past then thats the life it will present to with and all it memories. At the same time, if you are living in the future and wanting this and that, then the subconscious will continue that wanting as thats what you have asked for.
I want , I want, I want is all the subconsious hears and feels. So feed it with the present as this is the only language it understands.
Being grateful is also a present thought and action and only strengthens the language you are speaking to the subconscious mind. I am grateful for my life, I am grateful for the food I eat, I am grateful for the roof over my heard etc.
Very powerful affirmations that are spoken regularly, will have positive results as you are retraining your mind to think in the present and gives you what you think about, instead of giving you something you didn't realise you were manifesting unconsciously.
This is a big one. Being kind is part of our nature but we get distracted by all sorts of negative messaging in our daily lives. We are encouraged to hate, to judge and disrespect one another. We make assumptions about others by appearance, their opinions or hearsay without realising that by doing that, we reflect that onto ourselves.
Compassion, forgiveness and Respect should be taught everywhere as no one knows what life another person had and their circumstances.
We are all the same. We are human beings all having an experience and everyone is different. We have no right to Judge anyone as each and everyone of us are unique are have purpose no matter what it is.
Someone who Judges another has not dealt with their own issues and by continuing this behaviour will only add too and prolong an already insecurity within them.
The same with an angry man or women who assaults another in word or action actually assaults themselves and ends up sowing more seeds of self hatred.
Everyone we meet is an opportunity for a healing within ourselves. When we see something we do not like in another, this is our opportunity to address our own issues and show compassion for it.
Resistance to change is quite common. We get comfortable with the ways things and don't like rocking the boat too much. There is also that fear that too much change will impact friendships, relationships, careers and the way things were. No one likes to feel left out as we are pretty much programmed to think in a certain way.
The truth is we are all very much unique with a whole set of skills that no one else has. Discovering that requires you to take the plunge into the sometimes unknown to discover what it is you truly want. Sometimes that may include loosing people around you that may not be aligned with your new way of thinking and your new viewing of the world.
Sudden changes may spark of some criticism from well meaning loved ones and friends who think that you are going through some odd phase and away from the norm. If you are reading this then you are probably going through changes.
You also have the good old Ego that has had its own way from birth and that these changes are not very welcome. Thoughts like.Whats the point or things will never change or it will never happen, being some of Ego's favourite language.
You have given your ego a free reign up until now without any interruption and now here you are are getting all inspired and ready to make life so very difficult for the poor old ego. Will it try to resist? Yes ! Will it scream like a child who has just had their sweets taking off them? Absolutely !
To handle this we must first understand the ego. Most will go to war with their ego and think it's the enemy to change. This is a big mistake and will only end up with any change being compromised by the Ego. You never force the Ego to do anything as it is your inner child and its operates mostly on fear. All negativity, doubt, fear, addiction, blame etc comes from ego.
The best way around this is treat it as if you would a child. You need to be patient, kind and make any changes fun and rewarding. Every child love rewards for a job well done so all successes no matter how small need to be celebrated and enjoyed.
By doing that you are telling the inner child that there is something to be gained by these changes and you will minimise the resistance greatly. Work as a team as ego is an essential part of you that wants to be loved, admired and a celebrated member of the team.
I remember making a huge list of changes a few years ago without really consulting the Ego part of me. I was doing it and that was that. It was going to be very hard slog with no fun but sheer work and plenty more after that on a continuing basis. Not very exciting for the ego I must say.
So I got up the very first morning and my first daily ritual was going to be a very long run on the beach everyday for the entire year. I went to put on my trainers and Click, my disc slipped and I ended up in bed for two months. I could hear my ego telling me, "you are going for a run are you"? " We will see about that ". I never had a problem before with my back. its just happened out of nowhere but I knew what had happened.
Ego was very happy with the way things were and going for a long run every day along with a million other things didnt go down too well. Like a child escaping from going to school it came up with an ingenious way to take a long sickie. Nothing else would have stopped me that day. I was so driven to do this but with a slipped disc, I couldnt even move. That was a great lesson for me and one I didn't make again.
Applying all of these steps above was part of the process of dealing with the ego but also planting the seeds to change in my subconscious mind. There is one final one however and the most important one in my opinion.
Accountability is a critical part of the of the changing process. To be accountable for any new changes, give you a higher probability that you will carry out these tasks. For example; You decide that you will be taking a walk every day for a week, hail, rain or snow, no excuses.
Whats the chances you are going to do that? Some might say a good chance. Other might say, if the weather is too bad then, no harm skipping a day of two as I don't want to get the flu or something.
Ok the latter option is the ego talking and coming up with all sorts of scenarios so the task fails and the promise is broken. To insure this does not happen, find an accountability partner. It can be a friend, family member, wife , husband etc.
Tell them that if you do not complete this task for the week that you will give them money or do a task for them for failing to do your own task. How likely are you to complete this task with this in place? Remember ego doesn't like to lose or give up something that he or she cant afford to loose.
Make the arrangement painful enough not to fail the task. Again ego loves to win as it will be thanked and complimented for completing the task. Its a task it cant afford to loose but at the same time there are plenty of rewards for a successful outcome.
To make the process even better, have a little celebration or a treat so the ego is inclined to take up another challenge for more rewards and treats in the future. If there is nothing in it for the Ego, you have a very poor chance of building a good rapport and any participation from the ego.
Make sure the motivation within you and your ego are on the same page always. If you can do that along with the points I mentioned above, then manifesting will become easier and easier over time and eventually be automatic at will.
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